Transmogrify Inc.: Who put the "t" in normality?

Alice Miller author of From Rage to Outrage

I'll bet you're one of those sensitive
cocksuckers I've been hearin' about
Private Powerless! The best part of
me ran down my momma's ass in
child birth, now I'm gonna make you
into a monster, just like myself
...you grabassitic piece of shit!

We wear uniforms: that makes us normal!
We carry our normality into town as
honor!
You are a useless piece of shit because I
am one rank above you and I say so. I out rank
you, that makes me your God! The more trivial
the infraction, the worse your punishment.
Helping you die on the battlefield will be
my pleasure and the normal course of
evolution in this fucked-up world we
create for each other! Remember that
word "normal"...you are going to feel
like it's an honor to die for your
country you stinking recruit. I don't
believe you were fucking stupid enough
to volunteer for all this verbal and physical
abuse, so it's my sworn duty to make
sure you regret every fucking moment of
your miserable life! When we're in
garrison I'll be your best friend, but out
here in public I won't be happy until
your sorry ass is laying in a flag draped
coffin while I'm fucking your wife in the ass!
You can take that to the fucking bank
and cash it! In God we trust asshole!
Do you know what "polemic" means
you ignorant excuse for a human being?
You aren't stupid enough to take any
of this personally are you, well are you?
Well, you shouldn't because you are not
even a person anymore, you are a wastebasket
for my egregious bile!

Humiliations, spankings and beatings, slaps in the face, betrayal, sexual exploitation, derision, neglect, etc. are all forms of mistreatment, because they injure the integrity and dignity of a child, even if their consequences are not visible right away. However, as adults, most abused children will suffer, and let others suffer, from these injuries. This dynamic of violence can deform some victims into hangmen who take revenge even on whole nations and become willing executors to dictators as unutterably appalling as Hitler and other cruel leaders. Beaten children very early on assimilate the violence they endured, which they may glorify and apply later as parents, in believing that they deserved the punishment and were beaten out of love. They don't know that the only reason for the punishments they have (or in retrospect, had) to endure is the fact that their parents themselves endured and learned violence without being able to question it. Later, the adults, once abused children, beat their own children and often feel grateful to their parents who mistreated them when they were small and defenseless.

This is why society's ignorance remains so immovable and parents continue to produce severe pain and destructivity - in all "good will", in every generation. Most people tolerate this blindly because the origins of human violence in childhood have been and are still being ignored worldwide. Almost all small children are smacked during the first three years of life when they begin to walk and to touch objects which may not be touched. This happens at exactly the time when the human brain builds up its structure and should thus learn kindness, truthfulness, and love but never, never cruelty and lies. Fortunately, there are many mistreated children who find "helping witnesses" and can feel loved by them.